Warlovechildren in the Netherlands

In het dagblad Tubantia is een ontroerend interview verschenen met oorlogsliefdekind Andrea. Het artikel is hier online te lezen. Andrea deed al in 2010 voor het eerst haar verhaal op deze website: 'Ik vind Oorlogsliefdekind een mooie naam'

We hebben de tekst van het interview in de Tubantia ook hieronder geplaatst, voor degenen die het liever via onze website lezen:'Militaire vader wilde oorlogskind Andrea niet erkennen'. Je kunt verder lezen door 'Lees meer' aan te klikken.

The story of Veronique Dudek about her father Mart Moors

Our grandfather Martin was a military in the Dutch Indies. He and my grandmother went regularly for reunions of veterans. At one of those meetings my grandmother seems to have shouted to a man: “You have left your child in Indonesia”. It became a real hassle, because a lot of people were sitting around them. Why reacted she so upset, and who was that man she was so angry with? Was it just someone of whom she knew he had left a secret child behind? Or was it perhaps Jan Muller, the biological father of our father?

Unfortunately for Anne-Marie the family that she finally got in touch with because they responded to her call on this website, are not her relatives (see her story ‘A coffin full of secrets in the wardrobe’ and the continuation of her quest in ‘Another family reunion?’ ). The meeting with Jos and Willemien Kruger was nice, cozy and exciting. And there are certainly similarities in their physiognomy. But apart from that, there were few clues. A DNA test eventually had to give a definite answer, and the test proved negative. There is no match. So ‘back to the start’, as Anne-Marie feels it.
Despite this disappointment, she is happy that she met the family. It was a special experience that she did not want to have missed. She is in peace with the results and enjoys life. And: there is always another chance to a new post, as she says.

Half July 2014 Anne-Marie will meet with the family that contacted her following her quest she posted on Warlovechild.org. (read the story ‘A coffin full of secrets in the wardrobe’). She finds it very exciting and surely looks forward to it. The mysteries surrounding her birth, her biological mother and her adoption will probably never be unraveled, but maybe she finally learns something more about her biological father. That would mean that again a Dutch-Indonesian family is brought together. We’ll keep you updated!

The story of warlovechild Anne-Marie

At my parent's home in the hall closet there was a green military bag from my father from his service in the Dutch-Indonesian Army. It was strictly forbidden for me to take a look in that bag. If as a child you are not allowed to do something, it only gets more attractive, and I've obviously tried to find out several times what secret stuff was hidden in there. But my parents always noticed it, maybe I shifted something by accident or so. Then it was again made ​​clear that it really was forbidden to do so.

The story of Warlovechild Rika Jones.

'Until I was 21 I did not know better than that I was born in April 1948 in Semarang, Java, as a child of mother Menkel. Only when I went to emigrate to America from the Netherlands an older half-sister told me that I’m actually born in Padang on Sumatra, as a child of a Chinese mother and a Dutch soldier. My biological mother had three Chinese children and I looked so different, that she was forced to give me away.

In 2009, we interviewed José Kerry about her unknown military father. Now, 3 years later, it might be that she finally found him!

Telling her story to Warlovechild.org was the start of this story with a hopefully happy end. With the information of a veteran and the help of the organisation FIOM, she is now waiting for the results of a DNA-test.

One evening I came home after a night out with my younger sister. My mother was still awake, sitting in the living room. I would soon get married, and she had decided to tell me the truth: I was fathered by someone other than my father. My biological father was a Dutch soldier who had been stationed in Indonesia. I was 24 years, and knew of nothing until that moment.

My sister reacted immediately, without hesitation. "Come on, let's go find him!" But I responded very cool. I thought, ‘If he never looked for me all these years, why should I bother and go find him?’

At the age of 48 years, in 1996, Henk urgently needed to hand over his genetical family history because of possible complications following a serious car accident. Only then his younger brother confessed that Henk and his twin brother Vincent have a different, unknown father. Everything is described in a diary of the man they thought was their father. Until that unforgettable moment.

(Also read Andrea's personal story:  I like the term Warlovechild)

Dear people of the Warlovechild,

I will try to tell you how I came to know about the history of my father. As descibed in ‘stories’, I only knew his name. Luckily I knew the name of my half brother, whom I contacted. Through him I got my father's name and birth date.